A friend recently achieved a certain goal which had been in
her bucket list for long. I was happy for her - ecstatic to say the least and I am
sure she was too. So I asked whether we organize a party and her face sunk. She
didn’t want to ‘make it a big deal’. 'What do you mean don’t? It IS a big deal’
Apparently she didn’t want her friends to feel insecure since she was getting
many steps ahead and they were still struggling to make ends meet.
You see once you achieve something you want the whole world
to stop and clap for you (heck I have been clapping for everyone it’s my time
now give me that standing ovation) We want everyone to be happy for us. It’s
the least one can do, right?
So why should it feel bad for some? Why should me achieving
a milestone in my life make you insecure? Why should me celebrating my
achievement be an issue to you?
'Then be around people with high self-esteem Lisa,' I said. 'People who
won’t be threatened by your elevation, people who have faith in themselves and
in their God, people who know that they have done all there is to do and their
time is coming. People who understand that every time night came, it found the
rabbit and the tortoise in their houses, night never asked who got home
quicker, it simply congratulated and covered them both.'
I recently did an article about knowing when to end
relationships and honestly if your friendships get to this then it is time to
pick that scissor and start cutting people off. Get you a circle where you do
not have to shrink yourself to fit in.
I know she did not listen but at least she heard me. Don’t
be like Lisa, get you friends who will push you up not pull you down.
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